I had a wonderful time leading the last module of Solutionsurfers PURE Brief Coach Training in Sacramento, CA last week.

I was blessed to have such amazing participants.
And it was a joy to see how much progress they made in their coaching skills and in their coaching presence since we started in June!
As always, I learnt a lot seeing them coaching.
Their questions brought me to new insights about Solution-Focus.
Our conversations, always enlightening.

So I felt great about our training.
I checked in daily, and I was comforted to see it was not just an impression of mine :)
On the final day, I was happy to see that on a scale from 1 to 10, where 10 was meeting all their learning goals, beyond their wildest expectations, and 1 the opposite of that, they rated themselves to be 8.5 or more (some at 8.5, others at 10) on that scale.

I was particularly impressed by a distinction made by one of the participants.
He distinguished the “learning scale” from the “confidence scale“.
On a learning scale, he said he reached an 8.5, maybe even a 9.
But on a confidence scale about being a Solution-Focused  coach, he said he was worst off!
He started the module being at a 7 on this confidence scale, but now he was down to a 3 - he gained a new appreciation of the challenges involved in coaching in complex scenarios (mandated coachees, conflict situations, difficult decisions… the topic of the last module of Brief Coach Training).
He stated: “Between the past module and this one, I had 6 hours of practice; I now realize I need at least 60 before considering having clients!”

I was proud of him.
I already posted here about the Dunning-Kruger effect, i.e. about the fact that novices over-rate their abilities – while experts, knowing the complexities involved, tend to under-estimate their abilities.  So it was good to see this effect being taken care of, right there in front of my eyes, by this gifted participant, all on his own.

Here was a participant who not only had developed his Solution-Focused Coaching skills to an impressive level, but had also developed his meta-cognitive abilities regarding his own skills.

Impressive.

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Lately the workshop on Stress Management has been my best seller.

I have led three such 2-day workshops in the past month alone. Sign of the times, I guess.

In leading this workshop I am using what I call a sample-and-build approach.
First, I establish a positive and resourceful setting, by:
a) having participants define what they want instead of feeling stressed
b) inviting them to look at exceptions
c) inviting them to share their stories in a structured format.
This is the build part. We are bulding effective stress management strategies based on the participants’ skills and experiences. Sharing is a big part of creating excitement about what the participants are building.

Then, we move on to the  sample part.
There are a few Stress Management techniques demonstrated to work. Some of them are derived from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, others from Relaxation and Mindfulness approaches.
I give participants the chance to try each technique: e.g. I lead them in a “reframing” exercise and I lead them in a Progressive Muscle Relaxation exercise, and so on.
At the end of the workshop they have had the experience of several different techniques. This is the sampling part.
They have then the elements to decide which technique works best for them and pursue that: in this age of youtube, shared knowledge and easy access to handbooks and manuals, the resources are all out there to make a meal out of the original sample.
This way the new technique is seamlessly integrated in each participant’s behavioral repertoire.
Back to the build phase again.

And the learning cycle goes on…

The feedback I received from participants so far has been extremely positive!

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If you are like me, to stick with a resolution to change a behavior you need tools.

Simple tools:
a food journal to monitor your food habits and calories intake, if you are working on your weight;
a training log if you are competing in a triathlon or training for a marathon;
a table to show you when and where you are at your most resourceful and when and where you need to be extra-alert to avoid slipping back; graphs to chart your progress; tricks and strategies to deal successfully with specific situations (temptations) and the occasional failures.

Tools like that are the core of my Self-Directed Change Workshop and Coaching program.

The Workshop teaches people how to change problem behaviors.
You will learn what you wished you learned in school, but are not taught in school: principles of self-regulation.
The workshop is delivered at clients’ locations: schools and businesses.

The Coaching program helps clients learn principles of self-regulation by supporting them in changing a specific problem behavior, step-by-step, week-by-week.
Coaching is delivered via Skype, and the tools to monitor the progress are sent over email.

You do not need to attend a Workshop to enroll in the Coaching program: all you need to learn about self-regulation is conveyed to you as feedback while you are coached on changing a specific behavior.

Most common topics clients want to work on: weight management; procrastination; studying; social anxiety; stress reactions; assertiveness; developing new behaviors; relaxation; exercise.

If you ever thought about change, this is the time!

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