How Not to Change – 11 Strategies for Staying Stuck

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More often than not, Solution-Focused Brief Coaching boils down to helping clients getting unstuck.

Bill O’Hanlon‘s latest book, Change 101 – A Practical Guide to Creating Change in Life or Therapy offers a very useful overview of change strategies for life, therapy and coaching.

As a change facilitator, I do have my ideas about which change strategies work best.

Having said that, I did find amusing Bill O’Hanlon’s list of 11 strategies for staying stuck, which you can find at the end of his book.

Whenever we feel change is hard, it is very often because we are “trapped” in one or more of these useless behaviors:

  1. DON’T LISTEN TO ANYBODY
  2. LISTEN TO EVERYBODY
  3. ENDLESSLY ANALYZE AND DON’T MAKE ANY CHANGES
  4. BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR ACTIONS OR PROBLEMS
  5. BLAME YOURSELF OR PUT YOURSELF DOWN REGULARLY
  6. KEEP DOING THE SAME THING THAT DOESN’T WORK
  7. KEEP FOCUSING ON THE SAME THINGS WHEN THAT FOCUS DOESN’T HELP
  8. KEPP THINKING THE SAME THOUGHTS WHEN THOSE THOUGHTS DO NOT HELP
  9. KEEP PUTTING YOURSELF IN THE SAME UNHELPFUL ENVIRONMENT
  10. KEEP RELATING TO THE SAME UNHELPFUL PEOPLE
  11. PUT MORE IMPORTANCE ON BEING RIGHT THAT ON CHANGING

Got change? :-)

Update: On the “getting unstuck” side of the equation, Bill O’Hanlon also sends out each week a free email with tips about how to create positive change. Just send a blank email to: PossiBill0228-192380@autocontactor.com